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Know what you want.
Most successful people struggle to name their own Longings. We start there, because when you're connected to what you want, you don't have to chase motivation.
YouWhat you expected
ThemWhat they agreed to
Kill Your Expectations · The Agreements Method
Your expectations are costing you more than you think.
For 30 years, Jamie George has helped successful leaders get unstuck and clear-minded by trading the silent expectations that wreck their relationships for agreements that set them free.
30Years of training leaders
7Books published
CEOsCoached CEOs, founders, artists and athletes
“One of the best storytellers I know.”Dave Ramsey
The problem
You've had success. So why does it still feel like something is missing?
You lead well. You provide well. You give more than most people will ever know.
There's a quiet disappointment that keeps showing up. In the meeting where the team missed the mark again. On the drive home. At the dinner table, where the people you love keep failing a test they were never handed.
You've told yourself you just have high standards. You've worked on communicating better. You've read the books.
Here's what no one told you: You don't have a communication problem. You have an expectations problem.
The shift
An expectation is a contract only one person signed.
An expectation is silent, one-sided and never agreed to. When it goes unmet, it turns into resentment. That's why every expectation is a premeditated resentment.
An agreement is spoken, mutual and chosen. It has two yeses in it. And it changes everything: at work, in your marriage, with your kids, and with yourself.
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DesireYou want something. That was never the problem.
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Assumption“They'll know. It's common sense.”
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DisappointmentReality doesn't match the assumption.
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FrustrationIt happens again, and you keep score.
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ResentmentDisappointment becomes distance.
Expectations produce performance. Agreements produce belonging.
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Meet Jamie
A recovering rescuer who learned that strong leadership begins when you get clear about what you want.
For most of my life I believed love meant putting everyone else first. I carried everyone's burdens and hoped the people I loved would somehow know what I needed. They didn't, because I failed to get clear on what I wanted. The exhaustion wasn't coming from loving people. It came from carrying expectations they never agreed to carry.
I've spent three decades with my hands in the dirt of people's lives: as a youth pastor, a pastor, a university professor, an author and, for the last seven years, a coach to executives, founders, artists and athletes.
- 30 yearsHelping people find clarity in their sense of purpose, and deep connection in their relationships.
- 2006Planted The Journey Church in Franklin, a safe place for artists, grown from my living room to more than 2,000 people.
- 2019Coach and mentor to hundreds of executives, producers, musicians, athletes and entertainers.
- NowKill Your Expectations, The Agreements Method, Certified Thrivalist Coaches and the Thrivalist Collective.
I don't coach just your career. Your health, your marriage, your relationships and your ability to communicate effectively matter as much as your performance on the job. Maybe more.
How I help
The Thrivalist approach
Thriving isn't about working harder. It's about seeing clearly and choosing on purpose. My clients learn three things:
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Get off the Red Triangle.
Victim, Rescuer, Perpetrator: we all play one of these roles. You'll learn to spot yours and step onto the Green Triangle of Ownership, Negotiation and Boundaries.
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Replace expectations with agreements.
Clear, spoken, mutual agreements with your team, your family and yourself, so you can stop managing people and start managing agreements.
Avoid taking responsibility.
Find your corner
Red Triangle · Position
Victim
The Victim gives responsibility away. Something happening to you is different from building your identity around what happened.
Which corner am I standing in right now?
The only promise I make
You don't have to wait for anyone to go first.
Your freedom doesn't depend on everyone around you becoming more self-aware. You can go first, and the people you love get to follow.
Ways to work with me
Start where you are.
Four doors, from a free book to bringing the whole method to your team.
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Read the book.
Kill Your Expectations: Before They Kill You. Free, just cover $9.95 shipping.
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Join The Agreements Method.
Eight weeks of the full method plus live coaching with me and a community doing the work alongside you.
Learn more03One-on-one · By application
Private coaching.
One-on-one work with me, by application.
Apply04Keynotes · Training days · Podcasts
Bring me to your team.
Keynotes and training days for leadership teams. Guest speaker for your podcast.
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What changes when the drama stops
Jamie has helped save my marriage more than once, and he has helped me grow as a human being more than any coach I've ever had… Jamie George is simply the best.
Dustin HillisPresident, Safespace Global AIMy business has turned around. We are profitable… My relationship with my children is tremendous.
Understanding the drama triangle has changed my life. My only regret is that I didn't meet Jamie sooner.
Tom BennerotteAttorneyJamie has come alongside me giving direction, insight and life guidance when I was critically in need.
Joel SmallboneActor & lead singer, for KING & COUNTRYWho I work with
Someone in your corner who has walked this road.
No one reads the label from inside the jar. We meet by phone or video around your calendar, with in-person sessions where possible.
Who's helping you see what you miss on your own?
Individuals
Private coaching
A small number of people each year. Uncover the patterns behind the frustration and rebuild your relationships on clear agreements.
Apply for private coachingAthletes & entertainers
Performance under pressure
For people whose work happens in public. Presence, peace in the center of the chaos, and relationships that hold up on the road.
Start a conversationCorporations
Leadership training
Give your team a shared language for focus and accountability. Replace silent expectations with agreements anyone can repeat back.
Bring me to your team- Building new habits
- Mindset shifts
- Work and life balance
- Communication skills
- Leveling up as a leader
- Presence with people
- Assertiveness with empathy
- Conflict resolution
- Peace in the center of the chaos
- True connection with others
The book
Kill your expectations, before they kill you.
The book is the whole method in one place: how to catch the silent expectations poisoning your relationships and replace them with agreements that actually bring people closer. I've covered the book. You cover the shipping.
